So you have been going out with this guy for a couple of months now. You have chemistry, and you enjoy every moment you spend together. But you are still hesitating to go to the next level. What’s wrong?
If you are mulling over whether to stay with your boyfriend or not, here are 5 questions that you need to ask yourself to determine if this relationship is for keeps or if it is time to go separate ways.
Question #1: Have you met his family?
If it has been months and he still has not introduced you to his parents or siblings, then something must be wrong. This is even worse if you have already brought up this topic several times and he always has excuses every time.
A guy who introduces you to his family is someone who is really serious about you, and loves you enough that he wants the people he cares about to meet you.
Question #2: Do you see him on weekends?
While he may be spending every day of the week with you, but somehow he always has other things to do during the weekends, then something must be up. This should make you pause to think that maybe he is spending time with someone else during the weekends. Prod him to spend time with you on Saturdays and Sundays, and if he always has “something important to do” during these days, then you should know better than to stick around.
Question #3: Is he there for you?
Well, this is a bit different from question #2, because here we are talking about the emotional aspect of “being there for you.” When you are hurt or sad, does he try his best to comfort you? When you are happy, does it seem like he’s happy for you, too? Is he patient enough to go shopping with you every once in awhile? Does he show some interest in the things that matter to you?
Question #4: Can he support himself?
Now this aspect talks about financial stability. We need to be more practical, okay? Relationships should be full of love, yes, but it should also be backed by a good-paying job, or a stable income. So, is your partner employed? Has he talked to you about his work, his boss, or the company he works for? For all you know, this person might be unemployed, or worse, broke.
Question #5: Is he serious about you?
The first 4 questions should already answer this. However, to be clearer, you need to find out if he is really serious about you. Does he talk about the future with you? Does he respect you? Is he proud to be with you, even with other people around?
If you answered ‘NO’ to at least 2 of the above questions, then this should be a warning to you, and you need to find out why. Whatever happens, make sure you find out the truth. And whether you decide to stay or go your own way, think about it carefully to avoid making any mistakes.
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